The Happiness Recipe:
Fear not the strangeness you feel. The future has already
entered you. It is pulling you through life by your heart.
We have trouble simply subtracting disbelief; but if you realize you cannot force belief to
exist, so you can’t simply add belief to something you don’t believe. The way
to balance the recipe is to allow your heart to trust that what it loves is
real. If you can do this, trust automatically causes disbelief to relax and
disappear.
Yearning is the internal map of the course your life was
meant to follow. Your destiny pulls you through life by the heart. Yearning is,
indeed, a valuable indication of our best future, but it contains an energy
that can push away our dreams even as it tries to pull them towards us.
The key to understanding how you can use the positive
aspects of yearning while avoiding the negative. Recognize that yearning loves
something before you believe in it. The same is said of jealousy, envy,
disappointment, and even despair. To love something deeply without believing it
can be true is enormously painful.
Every great spiritual teacher, from Jesus to Forrest Gump,
has tried to explain to the world that love is indestructible. The part of the recipe
-yearning shows us that we must
eliminate not the love of the unseen thing, but our fear that it can never be
ours. Instead of feeling fear we must have faith.
When we yearn for something and focus on our fear that it
may not happen, Love cannot be subtracted. It’s the one permanent thing in the
universe. We create an approach avoidance response in everything our hearts
desire. The love makes us magnetic to the outcomes we desire; the fear of loss
or failure repels what we are trying to create just before it reaches us.
The future our hearts have already mapped for us gains the
energy and momentum to break through the shell of fear and into our material
lives. To live without fear or doubt is perhaps too much to ask of a small,
frightened, human animal, but to practice the discipline of focusing on love
rather than fear is something we can all achieve. Start with the things you
want just a little. As trust begins drawing these things into your life, you’ll
gain the confidence to escape approach avoidance responses and more impressive
results will follow.
Try a small thought experiment. Go through this list item by
item and allow yourself to trust that the thing you love not only will come,
but has already connected with you through the barrier of time. Notice any fear
that arises to tell you that the thing for which you yearn will never come to
you. Notice the choking, tensing or other form of contraction in your body when
you focus on your disbelief. This is the body’s response to a lie. Give
yourself a short space of time, say one minute, to take your attention off your
disbelief and focus instead on the love of this thing that has not yet happened.
Feel the warmth and openness of your life when you believe that your connection
with this thing is real, solid, and inevitable. You must give birth to your
images. They are the future waiting to be born. Fear not the strangeness you
feel. The future must enter you long before it happens.
If we can change the way we solve the yearning in this recipe
so that more of our time is spent focusing on love and enjoyment than on our
fear of failure or disappointment, the approach avoidance pattern begins to
break down.
Right now, make a list of everything you yearn for. Make
sure that you realize that your yearning is for the emotional sensation that
the experience would bring you rather than the form itself. (For example, you
don’t just wish for the perfect lover, but for the Make another list of things
you feel you deserve, but don’t believe you’ll ever get — things like good
luck, a soul mate, a really great haircut. Focus on the essence of the
experience, not the physical form. Have the complete sensation of knowing you
are deeply loved.
May the Divine Bless you today and always .
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